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[veek]

If you send an e-mail
and there's no answer
and you send another e-mail
and there's still no answer

did your e-mails make a sound?

Comments

[inkylj.livejournal.com]

I have learned from the movies that they make a "ding! you have mail!" sound.

[rednikki.livejournal.com]

Perhaps the recipient is looking for the right words.

[veek.livejournal.com]

Very possible, but the last mail I sent was not hugely Involved. This would be like me saying to someone, "hey, what are you up to this weekend?" and them being lost for words for a week.

[ectropy.livejournal.com]

It sounds stupid, but I've been in nearly that situation before...
If life gets so overwhelming, even answering a simple question is sometimes too much.

this reminds me ...

[fmi-agent.livejournal.com]

... of a time when i was uncommunicative with my then-GF.

disclaimers: the analogy between this story and your current situation might exist only in my own brane. also, this is a hazy and probably not-totally-accurate memory from 3 years ago. end disclaimers.

it was between christmas 1999 and new year's day 2000. i don't think i was upset with my GF back then. i was just self-absorbed. i was sick at the time. she thought i was mad at her. e.g.: when we slept, i slept turned away from her. there might have been a bowl by the bed that i could throw up into instead of throwing up on her, if i felt suddenly nauseous. in any case, she interpreted my turned back as evidence that i was upset with her about something and unwilling to talk about it.

i think i kept missing some cues she was sending me, that she wanted to hear what was going on with me, and she was getting worried about it. finally, she couldn't take it any more, and she got upset with me for being upset with her and for not communicating. i don't think i'd been upset with her before then ... but i certainly felt upset with her AFTER that, because i felt like i'd been attacked with no reason.

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[fmi-agent.livejournal.com]

ack! i hit Post Comment inadvertently!

i was going to say: i'm not saying at all that either she or i was right or wrong in the above little story. just that some people -- especially certain clueless males -- can be hard to draw out, and sometimes can even miss things that are staring them straight in the face.

so, again, this story may or may not be at all relevant to what you're going through. in any case, i'm sorry that this person is not replying to you on something that's evidently important to you.

Re: this reminds me ... (continued)

[veek.livejournal.com]

Hm. I think you and I may indeed be talking about communication on vastly different levels. I didn't post this because it's a Huge Deal. The biggest deal here, I think, is that I'm perceiving the lack of response as rude. A simple acknowledgment would have been fine.

But even that's not why I posted. I just posted because sometimes you muse, and you post in the blog. It's short and musing, and I didn't expect it to be taken so seriously.

Thanks for the story, though.

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[fmi-agent.livejournal.com]

> I think you and I may indeed be talking about communication on vastly different levels

it wouldn't be the first time!

i'm glad that this situation is not a huge deal.

i might have been jumping to conclusions about what this unresponded-to email was about

Re: this reminds me ... (continued)

[emshort.livejournal.com]

Well, musing aside...

I try to answer email. I try really hard.

Sometimes there is too much or I'm too busy and I put it off and then forget someone. This is a bad quality of mine, alas.

-- Emily, feeling guilty