... of a time when i was uncommunicative with my then-GF.
disclaimers: the analogy between this story and your current situation might exist only in my own brane. also, this is a hazy and probably not-totally-accurate memory from 3 years ago. end disclaimers.
it was between christmas 1999 and new year's day 2000. i don't think i was upset with my GF back then. i was just self-absorbed. i was sick at the time. she thought i was mad at her. e.g.: when we slept, i slept turned away from her. there might have been a bowl by the bed that i could throw up into instead of throwing up on her, if i felt suddenly nauseous. in any case, she interpreted my turned back as evidence that i was upset with her about something and unwilling to talk about it.
i think i kept missing some cues she was sending me, that she wanted to hear what was going on with me, and she was getting worried about it. finally, she couldn't take it any more, and she got upset with me for being upset with her and for not communicating. i don't think i'd been upset with her before then ... but i certainly felt upset with her AFTER that, because i felt like i'd been attacked with no reason.
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this reminds me ...
Date: 2002-11-15 12:05 (UTC)disclaimers: the analogy between this story and your current situation might exist only in my own brane. also, this is a hazy and probably not-totally-accurate memory from 3 years ago. end disclaimers.
it was between christmas 1999 and new year's day 2000. i don't think i was upset with my GF back then. i was just self-absorbed. i was sick at the time. she thought i was mad at her. e.g.: when we slept, i slept turned away from her. there might have been a bowl by the bed that i could throw up into instead of throwing up on her, if i felt suddenly nauseous. in any case, she interpreted my turned back as evidence that i was upset with her about something and unwilling to talk about it.
i think i kept missing some cues she was sending me, that she wanted to hear what was going on with me, and she was getting worried about it. finally, she couldn't take it any more, and she got upset with me for being upset with her and for not communicating. i don't think i'd been upset with her before then ... but i certainly felt upset with her AFTER that, because i felt like i'd been attacked with no reason.